We aren’t hypocritical just because we don’t meet a person’s every demand. Would we really be helping them if we met their every demand, no matter how selfish? Instead, we might just be encouraging greater self-centeredness on their part – and that is not God’s will. Sometimes love says no, because that is what is best for the other person.
If you can fulfill someone’s request, however, do so even if it involves sacrifice on your part. The Bible says, “let us not love with words or tongue but with actions in truth” (1 John 3:18).
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
Billy Graham – Wisdom For Each Day